Thursday, 7 October 2021

Caring 💓

 Most people who care for others in a selfless manner do so because of a genuine desire to help and improve the world around them. Nonetheless, modern psychological research has shown that caring has benefits for all involved; people who volunteer or care for others on a consistent basis tend to have better psychological well-being, including fewer depressive symptoms and higher life-satisfaction. Caring behavior even has physiological benefits, as current research shows that individuals who receive social support (a form of caring behavior) are more protected from disease and even death (e.g., Broadhead et al., 1983).


Although “caring” can involve volunteering as part of an organized group or club, can be as simple as reaching out to a workmate or classmate who looks lonely or is struggling with an issue. Studies show that people who reach out like this can benefit in multiple ways. Some individuals care for others through acts of altruism and organized volunteering, while others prefer monetary donations and engagement in communal relationships. The majority of studies agree that there is a significant association between caring for other’s well-being and increased positive affect. Several studies have found that this correlation appears to be highest in older adults who participate in volunteer activities (Morrow-Howell et al., 2003; Wheeler et al., 1998).


The same level of correlation has not been found in younger adults as a whole. Yet, a subgroup of younger adults who engage in sustained volunteering over long periods of time do in fact have higher levels of psychological well-being (Wheeler et al., 1998). The authors of this study speculated that many young adults who volunteer for short periods of time may have been encouraged to volunteer by their schools or did so to boost their chances of getting into college. In contrast, older volunteers tend to cite moral responsibility. This suggests that “intrinsically motivated” volunteers, i.e. those who are more motivated for the sake of volunteering itself, feel more satisfaction than “extrinsically motivated” volunteers (Midlarsky, Kahana, 1993).


One more intriguing set of data reveals that the recipients of volunteer activities who were encouraged to participate or cooperate in some way, tended to experience greater happiness. In contrast to this, those who passively received the benefits did not become significantly happier, and in some cases became more depressed. As is true for other areas of research, it is considerably more difficult to prove that volunteering causes improved mental well-being than to simply identify an association between the two. At least one study, however, has attempted to do the former with a prospective, randomized trial (Yuen et al., 2008). The authors of this study randomly assigned a population of older adults into one of two groups: a group that volunteered for three months, and a control group that did not. At the end of the trial, the researchers found that those who volunteered scored higher on indices of mental well-being than those who did not. These effects persisted three months after the end of the trial, indicating that the benefits of volunteering may be long-lasting.


Nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care.

Theodore Roosevelt

Monday, 27 September 2021

10 Reasons Why Your Partner Should Be Your Best Friend💞💓

 

10 Reasons Why Your Partner Should Be Your Best Friend

1.You are more yourself in the relationship.

That’s because you are already close friends. You have no reason to feel self-conscious or act out in the relationship. And being your true self in a relationship is of paramount importance for a healthy union.

2.You are familiar with each other’s bad side.

As best friends, you know each others’ weaknesses, insecurities and dark sides all too well. In fact, you know each other so well that some reprehensible little habits have become strangely endearing.


3.You are more or less aware of each other’s relationship histories.

That means it’s unlikely there will be any serious surprises popping out of nowhere in your relationship since you share a common past.


4.Your fights and disagreements are less damaging.

All couples have a few disagreements and fights from time to time. However, when your partner is your best friend, actual fights and disagreements that could easily spiral into full blown wars often start to fizzle out into playful fighting by the time they are over.


5 The process of adjusting to your partner’s tastes is much smoother.

That’s because you’re already accustomed to each other. You have a sense of what your partner likes and dislikes and know exactly what to expect of them. This means you’re both well equipped to deal with any arising issues. 


6.You see each other in true form.

Best friends see beyond the façade we put on display publicly. They see right through to our well guarded selves within. When your partner is your best friend, he or she knows you for who you truly are and accepts you just the way you are. You have each other down to a science. So much so that you both know if you were ever to try anything fishy, you’d be able to bust each other immediately.


7.You have way too many inside jokes that no one else understands.

As best friends, the random laughing, singing and dancing that goes on between the two of you is the stuff of envy and admiration. You’ve even coined hilarious inside words and phrases that could quite possibly be incriminating, but aren’t.


8.You can wear each other’s clothes.

It may be considered weird for lovers to wear each other’s clothes, but when couples are best friends, weird is often the norm. Hearing couples ask questions like, “Can I wear those sweatpants today?” is a totally normal thing that happens when your partner is your best friend.


9.You don’t have to call each other all the time to know that you have each other on the mind.

You can actually go a little while without talking to each other and be completely fine. You just don’t worry you’ll let your partner down because you know each other too well for such petty worries. 


10.You have movies and TV shows that you watch together.

And if one of you were to watch one of them without the other, World War III would probably break out in your residence. But truth be told, it is just so endearing and warming when you watch your favorite movies and television shows together.


Friday, 24 September 2021

Possessiveness 🤨

 Possessiveness tamil




☆ : உடைமையான பிரதிபெயர்கள் ஏதோ ஒருவருக்கு சொந்தமானது என்பதைக் காட்டுகின்றன.  உடைமைப் பிரதிபெயர்கள் என்னுடையவை, நம்முடையவை, உங்களுடையவை, அவருடையவை, அவளுடையவை, அவற்றின்வை.  இந்த பிரதிபெயர்களில் ஒவ்வொன்றின் "சுயாதீன" வடிவமும் உள்ளது: என்னுடையது, எங்களுடையது, உங்களுடையது, அவருடையது, அவளுடையது, அது மற்றும் அவர்களுடையது.  உடைமைப் பிரதிபெயர்கள் ஒருபோதும் அப்போஸ்ட்ரோபிகளுடன் உச்சரிக்கப்படுவதில்லை.

 ☆ஆதி @: அது இல்லை!  உண்மையில், இது காதலுக்கு எதிரானது.  இது காதலுக்கு எதிரானது!

 "எனக்கு நீ தேவை, நீ இல்லாமல் என்னால் வாழ முடியாது."  அது காதல் அல்ல - அது உடைமை நடத்தை.  சாராம்சத்தில், மற்ற நபர் தனக்கு என்ன விரும்புகிறார் என்பதைப் பொருட்படுத்தாமல், உங்களுக்காக அந்த நபரை நீங்கள் விரும்புகிறீர்கள்.

 ஒரு உறவில் உள்ள ஆளுமை என்பது ஒரு நபரை தனக்காக அல்லது அவருக்காக மட்டுமே வைத்திருக்க வேண்டிய ஆழமான தேவை.  உங்கள் பங்குதாரர் வேறு யாருடனும் நேரத்தை செலவழிக்க விரும்பாதபோது அல்லது உறவுக்கு வெளியே ஆர்வங்களைத் தொடர விரும்பாதபோது, ​​நீங்கள் அனைவரின் கவனத்தையும் அன்பையும் விரும்பும்போது.

 ஆ

 ☆ நீங்கள் உங்களை நேசிக்கும்போது, ​​நீங்கள் நிறைவாகவும் நிறைவாகவும் உணர்ந்து மற்றொருவரை நேசிக்கத் தேர்வு செய்கிறீர்கள்.  அங்கு எந்த சக்தியும் இல்லை.  உங்கள் நேரத்தை இன்னொருவருக்குக் கொடுக்க விருப்பம்.  இது நீங்கள் செய்யும் தேர்வு.  அந்த நபர் உறவில் இருப்பது அவர் அல்லது அவள் இல்லாமல் முழுமையடையாததால் அல்லது பத்திரத்தை நிறைவேற்றுவதே தனது கடமை என்று நினைப்பதால் அல்ல, ஆனால் அவர் அல்லது அவள் அதில் இருக்க விரும்புவதால்.  நீங்கள் விரும்பும் நபர் உங்கள் ரேடாரில் எப்போதும் இருக்க வேண்டியதில்லை.  உங்கள் காதல் நீங்கள் ஒருவருக்கொருவர் எவ்வளவு அடிக்கடி தொடர்பு கொள்கிறீர்கள் என்பதைப் பொறுத்தது அல்ல.  நபரின் அன்றாட செயல்பாடுகள் பற்றி நீங்கள் அனைத்தையும் தெரிந்து கொள்ள வேண்டியதில்லை மற்றும் நீங்கள் புதுப்பித்த நிலையில் இல்லாவிட்டால் புண்படுத்தப்படுவீர்கள்.  நீங்கள் அந்த நபரை நேசிக்கிறீர்கள்.

 

☆ நம்மில் எத்தனை பேர் இந்த வகையான உறவில் இருப்பதாகக் கூற முடியும்?  உறவில் மூச்சுத் திணறலை நீங்கள் எப்போதாவது உணர்ந்திருக்கிறீர்களா?  நீங்கள் அந்த நபருடன் இருப்பதை நீங்கள் எப்போதாவது உணர்ந்திருக்கிறீர்களா, ஏனென்றால் நீங்கள் அவருடன் இருக்க வேண்டும், ஆனால் நீங்கள் விரும்புவதால் அல்லவா?  பின்னர் நீங்கள் ஒரு சொந்த உறவில் இருக்க வாய்ப்புள்ளது.

 

☆ ஒருவரை ஒருவர் நேசியுங்கள், ஆனால் அன்பின் பிணைப்பை ஏற்படுத்தாதீர்கள் ......

 ……… ஒன்றாக நிற்கவும் இன்னும் அருகில் இல்லை:

 கோவிலின் தூண்கள் விலகி நிற்க,

 ஓக் மரம் மற்றும் சைப்ரஸ் ஒருவருக்கொருவர் நிழலில் வளரவில்லை.




அசையும் இசையே



உன்

கன்னம் தபேலா

நாசி புல்லாங்குழல்

இதழ் மவுத் ஆர்கன்

கழுத்து கடம்

கரம் நாதஸ்வரம்

வயிறு மத்தளம்

இடை உடுக்கை

மொத்தத்தில்  நீ வினை

சப்த ஸ்வரங்கள் உன் சேனை

உன்னை வாசிக்கும் வாய்ப்பை 

எமக்கு தருவாயா...

                                 By raban sathya.

Monday, 20 September 2021

Aval❤️

 அவள் என்னை பொறுக்கி என்றாள் ஆம் நான் பொறுக்கி கொண்டு தான் இருக்கிரேன் எங்கும் சிதறி கிடக்கும் அவளின் நினைவுகளை


 உன் கண்களில் முழ்கி மூர்ச்சித்துப்போன  என் உயிரை உன் இதயத்தில் புதைத்து விடு


அவளது 

பவுடர் கன்னத்தில் இருக்கும்

கரும்புள்ளி (மச்சம் )கூட

பெளவுர்னமி நிலவே



 என்றோ வேக போகிற

உடம்பிற்கு 

இன்று உன் நினைவுகளால் வேகிற ஒத்திகை 


அவள் முகம் பார்க்கும்

கண்ணாடியின் ஓரத்தில் 

ஒரு பொட்டு அவளது 

 கண்ணே பட்டு

விடக்க கூடாது என 



உன் கை கடிகாரம் போலதான்

என் இதயமும் ஒவ்வொரு

நொடியும் நீ பார்க்கவே

துடிக்கிறது 



எந்தன் நாளில் 

உன்னுடன் கழித்து 

மிச்சமான பொழுதுகளும்

உன்னயே தேடுகின்றன




இருநாள் உன்னை கானாமல் 

இருவிழிகள் உறங்கவில்லை

மறுநாள் உன்னை கண்டு

மனமானது பூச்சென்டு

உன் விழிகளில் 

என்னைக் கண்டு 

தெரிந்து கொண்டேன் 

காதல் நிகண்டு 




ஒவ்வொரு முறையும் என்னை சந்திக்கும் போது கண்களால் கொலைசெய்து விட்டு இதழ்களால் நலம் விசாரிக்கிறாய்

            ரூபன் சத்யா

Wednesday, 8 September 2021

Nilavea 🌕

 நிலவே நீயா🌕💓


மாலை வேளை மைனா சோலை தேட

உனது மை விழி எனை நாட

எனது கை உனை தொட

நமது ஆசை கூட

எனது மெய் குளறுபடி

தேனா பாலா உனது மொழி

மானா மயிலா  உனது விழி

பூவா தலையா எனது வினா

சாவா ஜனனமா உனது விடை 

இனி வானா  எனது நடை 

பயமா நாணமா உனது தடை

எனது வீடு ஏதுகுறை

நீ தேயா பிறை 

நீயிலா  வீடு சுடுகாடு

நிலவே வருவாயா

ஒளி தருவாயா!!!🌕

Monday, 6 September 2021

Kaàdhal

 உங்களை நன்றாக உணர வைப்பது மட்டுமல்லாமல், நீங்கள் நன்றாக இருக்க வேண்டும் என்று விரும்பும் ஒருவருக்கு நீங்கள் தகுதியானவர். அவர் உங்களையும் உங்கள் இலக்குகளையும் ஆதரிக்கிறார். உங்கள் படிப்பைப் பற்றி அவர் உங்கள் கருத்துக்களைக் கேட்பார், இது உலகின் மிகவும் சுவாரஸ்யமான தலைப்பு. நீங்கள் விட்டுக்கொடுக்கப் போகிறீர்கள் என்றால், அவர் உங்கள் சியர்லீடராக இருப்பார். அவர் உங்களை எல்லா வழிகளிலும் ஊக்குவிப்பார்.




காதல் சாம்ராஜ்யம்
பூராடம் தோட்டத்தில் மதுவருந்தா வாட்டத்தில்
    கருவண்டுகள் கூடி இருக்க
மீனோடும்விழிகளில் காற்றாடும் கொடிகளை                        விலக்கி என்னை கண்களால் தேடியிருக்க 
தேனோடும் உன்னுடைய பாட்டோடு எந்தன் 
காதல் கரங்கள் பற்றி இழுக்க
வானோடும் மண்ணோடும் கலந்து நீங்கா
காதல் சாம்ராஜ்யம் என்றும் உனக்காக.



உங்கள் மீது வெறி கொண்ட ஒருவருக்கு நீங்கள் தகுதியானவர். அவர் புத்தகப் பக்கங்களுக்கு இடையில் தோராயமாக குறிப்புகளை வைப்பார், ஏனென்றால் அது உங்களை சிரிக்க வைக்கும் என்று அவருக்குத் தெரியும். அவர் உங்கள் குரலைக் கேட்க விரும்புகிறார் என்று சொல்வதற்காக அதிகாலை

 2 மணிக்கு உங்களை அழைப்பார். அவர் உங்களைத் தவறவிட்டதால் ஒரு மணிநேரம் உங்களைப் பார்ப்பதற்காக அவர் 3 மணிநேரம் ஓட்டுவார். அவர் உங்களுக்கு பியோனிகளை அனுப்புவார், ஏனென்றால் நீங்கள் அவர்களை நேசிக்கிறீர்கள் என்று அவருக்குத் தெரியும். அவர் உங்களுக்கு காலை வணக்கம் உரைப்பார், ஏனெனில் அவர் அவ்வாறு செய்ய கடமைப்பட்டவராக உணர்கிறார், ஆனால் அவர் எழுந்த தருணத்திலிருந்து அவருடைய மனதில் நீங்கள் முதலில் இருப்பீர்கள்.

Sunday, 5 September 2021

Laziness😑

 Some people are always busy.obviously some others are always lazy.laziness is nothing more than the habit of  resting before you get tired.

The first enemy is laziness 😑


Here are some tips to help you get rid of laziness;

    

Make Realistic goal 

                             General goal would be lose weight and get in shape. But a specific goal would be sign up for an aerobics class at the local gym and participate at least three times a  week for one month.


Avoid distraction 

                      One of the biggest hurdles to motivation is the environment you are in.this means that you surrounding must be free of diversions,noise, clutter.

You can make your work space friendly

Use headphones; if you are working in noisy environment,use noise cancelling headphones.listening to music through ear bunds can also tune out distracting noise. Live people talking   too   loudly   or construction work.often through music with lyrics can be too distracting . Research suggests to classical or instrumental music to improve concentration.


Use positive self-talk

                                 Negative self-talk is one of the things that derail people from getting things done in different aspects of life. Telling other people that you are lazy is negative self-talk. instead or talking yourself negatively,why not practice positive self-talk? always do your best one.

          

Know your strength

                                Do you know your strength?if the answer is no,take a couple of minutes of think of your strengths when preparing to work on a task or goal. Apply them to your  task to get thus done quickly research studies have shown that focusing on your strengths boots productivity cultivate positive feelings and increase engagement in the work place.


Use two-minute rule 

                               If your are tackle anything under two-minute from the habit of doing at immediately. Thus applies to making your bed doing the dishes, replying to emails or writting a to-do-list.


Conclusion,


" I will choose a always a lazy person to do a difficult job Because he will find an easy way to do It "

                     -Bill gates


     It’s completely reasonable to feel lazy some or even most of the time. And even the most productive among us are challenged by our inner laziness.

   However, your laziness and lack of motivation do not have to hold you back from getting the results or achieving the goals you want. Find a strategy or combination of strategies that work for you, and stick to them.


                    





Thursday, 2 September 2021

Improving communication skills

 The foremost requirements for improving your communication skills is the desire To  improve your communication skills. Appreciate the communication skills of the well known orators and writers and develop the desire that you too should possess such skills. To improve your speaking abilities ,you should gain mastery over language,may it be your mother tongue or english . 


7 Tips on speaking English fluently; 


*Your goal is to deliver a message,not speak  perfect english,with the right grammar and vocabulary.


*Practice makes perfect.so practice every day .


*The more you hear, the easier it will be for you to speak better english.you will start speaking more fluently in conversation.


*Every time you talk to someone in English is an achievement. Every single interaction you have ,no matter how small ,will help you improving your skills overtime. Be proud of  your progress.


*Go from speaking good english to great english by thinking in the language.you will find it difficult at first but after sometime you will learn how to switch between speaking English and your first language.


*It will look funny,we know.but by talking to yourself in English in front of the mirror for a few minutes each day, you will learn when and how to use different expressions you will also learn where you  make most of them mistake.


*Tongue twisters help improve your diction teach you how to speak quickly.practise with tricky saying like this .The thirty theives thought that they thrilled the throne throughout Thursday.











 





Monday, 2 August 2021

love yourself ;love yourself

 Our traditional teaching is that we should love others.Yes ,we should love others ,but at the same time 

we should not neglect ourselves . Let us see what happens if we love others and fail to love ourselves .

It would be a disaster!







 

*We don't take care of our physique .if we don't eat nutritious food and do not do proper exercise ,we are 

likely to lose our appearance ,and more importantly our health.


*We do not wear well-fitting clothes.when we don't wear well-fitting clothes,we may develop a 

 complex  and lose confidence.


*We are not motivated for a superior achievements .if we lack motivation ,there is no  possibility 

of reaching the top.


*We have poor self-respect .our own image of ourself  is vital for the desire to live ,we lose the desire to

 live ,we lose our identity and pride .self-respect is crucial for our success.


*When we don't love ourselves ,others don't  love us.people will take us for granted ,they may even  

treat us as jokers.we will become a laughing stock and people can easily insult us.


*Insult,humiliation,rejection, and isolation can dilute concentration ,which are detrimental to the

 development of a holistic human being.


So before loving someone else ,love yourself first.Before respecting others, you respect yourself first.

that is the only way of commanding respect from others.Every one of us is as good as anybody  else.

our body, mind and our character are intimate to us .we are precious .whether you are tall ,dark  and 

handsome or not ,you are beautiful human being in the world .Let us eat nutritious food and do exercise

every day. Let us wear good clothes and make ourselves presentable.The healthy physique,right

 posture ,well-fitting clothes and appropriate footwear enhance our appearance .Appearance is vital 

for our confidence . Let us feel good about ourselves and our appearance .Let us celebrate our body.




 

        

Saturday, 31 July 2021

KNOW YOUR SELF !

 Every one of us is special. And each  of  us is endowed with some abilities in abundant measure .

At the same time we lack some other abilities. Knowledge of our strength and weakness is crucial.

Know  thyself. 


                                               


    Some jobs require certain abilities in abundant measure.For ,instance a singer needs a good voice, 

  But a scientist does not.A pilot needs clear eyesight where as a singer does not need. A chess player 

  should have sharp memory but an athlete can win a gold metal in olympics with limited memory

   power.         



Before you choose your ambition ,you should necessarily follow the procedure,

     *Make an assessment of your abilities.

    *Gather information about the competing ambitions .

    *Understand your likes and dislikes .

    * Feel your desire. 

   *Choose your ambition.  


You should sit in a calm place and make an unbiased evaluation of yourself,

    Who am i?

    what do i want?

  What are my strengths?

 What are my weakness ?

 How strong is my physique?

What are my physical ailments?

How powerful is my memory? 

What are my likes?

What are dislikes?

What are my accomplishments?

What are my failures?

What can give me happiness - money,recognition,power,achievement or success? 



Be brutally honest with yourself .Be ruthless when it is the question of your likes and dislikes.abilities

and inabilities. If you have a poor memory,admit it .If you are not  fair and tall, understand it.None is 

perfect in this world .Moreover , for very great achievements ,it is not necessary  that should posses all 

these qualities.For instance ,to win a noble prize ,you need not be tall and handsome. But nonetheless, 

make the assessment of your abilities sincerely . The idea is that you should be able to enjoy the job 

that you are going to choose .You can find pleasure in your job is of your liking and you have the  

required ability to do that job.


   it is even possible to be a public speaker with a stammer,but it takes extraordinary efforts. You should

 know that it is your  deliberate choice and you should enjoy the many futile attempts  that you  have to 

make before you are recognized as an electrifying speaker. After knowing your strengths and

 weaknesses    collect information about the competing ambitions.                                               











Thursday, 29 July 2021

BE PASSIONATE ABOUT AMBITION

 When you have a passion ,you are attracted towards that ambition .  You will be eager to know all about it  If your ambition is to become an architect , every fact about a building will fascinate you. You will take a second look at  each building and study its salient features.In short, you will be oriented towards your goal.                                   LIKE ATTRACTS THE LIKE 





  Having chosen your ambition ,feel it. If you like to become a doctor ,assume that you are a doctor  ,

that too  renowned doctor. Feel like a doctor ,as if you are treating many patients every day.Imagine 

the some of yourself walking in the corridor of you own hospital or think of conducting a difficult 

surgery. Look at the smile on the face of the patient whose life you have just saved.  It feels great to be

a doctor!


This feeling should motive you.you should be aware of your ambition every moment  of your life  

consciously and sub-consciously .All your behaviour will be modified to suit the description of your

 proposed  personality. 


Image how great it will be a NASA scientist .How great it  feels when you land on the earth after a 

space walk! How does success taste when people greet you on your arrival to India after a long stay 

in the space? 


Your are the state topper in the plus  2 examination. The news channels are telecasting your interview 

and people all over the world are watching it.How do you feel? 


Know your ambition; feel your ambition;declare your ambition and live your ambition. 


         "ONE DAY YOU ARE GOING TO BE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BECOME"

Tuesday, 27 July 2021

BE CLEAR ABOUT YOUR DREAMS !

 An angle appeared before a man and asked what he wanted? The man said that he wanted a bag full of

 money ,a big vehicle and many women.The angle made him a conductor!


You should know what  exactly you want.Don't  say I want a lot of money .What do you mean by  saying 'a lot of money'?Is ten thousand rupees a month?Is it fifty thousand  rupees a month? Is it one lakh rupees a month?Be specific, because, WHATEVER YOU DESIRE,YOU  WILL GET IT.




Indra Nooyi  ,  chennai - born girl is the chief executive officer of Pepsi company.she is drawing a 

 salary  of 55 crores of Indian  rupees a year. she wanted to draw such a huge salary , and  hence she is 

receiving it. If she desired just five lakh rupees a year ,she would have got  just that.Therefore  be  clear

clear about what you want .



 *    Two brothers were working in a cycle workshop.  


*  They wanted to fly on a machine .


* people ridiculed them, many thought that it was not impossible .


                             


*But the brothers succeeded ultimately  and announced a public demonstration of flying  machine in 

 kitty hock on 17 th december 1903. 


* A local newspaper carried the comment " They are not flying brothers, they are lying brothers".


* But  The brothers  wilbur wright and oliver wright flew a machine for 120 feet at a height of 6 feet 

 for 12 seconds in full view of the public. 


* They invented the aeroplane.

                                         

         YOU SHOULD BE SPECIFIC ABOUT YOUR OBJECTIVES








Sunday, 25 July 2021

How To OverCome Fear?

 It is obvious that we can't gain confidence as long as we have fear.There,we need to overcome fear .

How can we overcome fear?




*Always think of those activities you have successfully completed:


                                                                          1. You have learnt to ride a bicycle  ,or drive a motorcycle ,haven't you?


   2. you have drawn a picture that was appreciated by the drawing master  ,haven't you? 


   3. you had once participated in a runing race and won a prize,didn't you?


  4. once you were topper in the class test,weren't you?


 5. once you scored 100 marks in the mathematics,didn't you?


 5. how did you accomplish these feats?


if you could do done ,you can do it again and again.


THERE IS A JAPANESE SAYING :

                                                  "if there can do it, i too can do it,

                     if others can't do it,i must do it"


*DO THE ACT THAT YOU SCARED OF THE MOST:


                                                                     if you scared of talking on the stage ,do it in the next

 week school assembly;or take part in the next oratorical competition .If you fear a dog,then buy  

 puppy and rear it at home;you will have no more fear of a dog .If you are scared of memorizing a

 poem,do it even if it takes the whole day .Fear will vanish like a mist before the morning sun


*MEET THE PEOPLE WHO HAD OVERCOME THE FEAR OF THE ACT YOU FEAR THE MOST:  


               If you fear the ambition of becoming the topper in  the school,meet the last year topper

 and discuss  the secrets of her success.When you have an interaction with her you will realize

 that she is an ordinary you are. If you fear IIT-JEE ,meet a successful candidate ,and talk to

 him.You will realize that he had overcome his fears .

                        

*READ THE BIOGRAPHIES OF  GREAT PEOPLE :

                             Like Mahatma Gandhi,Abraham Lincoln,

     Napoleon Bonaparte ,and Sir Isaac Newton.There are highly

    motivating.Great achievers like Thomas Alva Edison ,Helen Keller,

    Louise Pasteur ,Beethoven and Louie Braille have struggled

   against their limitations and made great contributions.you get

  confidence and gain momentum after reading the moving accounts of

  their rags to riches stories . 


*BREAK UP THE TASK:

         

                  There is a proverb in Malayalam that you can eat

 even a palm tree,if you eat slowly .If you are scoring 60% in a

 subject ,set your target at 75% in the next term,what won't scare

 you.But once you attained 75%, raise the bar to 85% for the half

 yearly examination,and aim at 95% for the final examination.By doing

 so you will not be frightened by the huge target;and it will look

 like a surmountable hill.


* WE SHOULD FIND OUT THE CAUSE OF FEAR AND REMOVE THE CAUSE:

                              If a boy had an experience of an electric shock,he may even fear to touch a switchboard .The cause of fear should be addressed.He should be asked to switch on the light repeatedly till overcome  the fear .Some self-improvement experts make people to walk on fire-fire walking to overcome fear.In fact,this is a practice in the south Indian Mari Amman temples for ages.Perhaps this is an excercise to banish fear.






      

IF YOU ARE AFRAID , YOU ARE HALF-DEAD

                                   -Mahatma Gandhi.

Friday, 23 July 2021

Latest thought, overthinking out

 In This World Most Of Them Affected By  Overthinking,In The survey 53% of women and 43% of women Affected.








I want to Ask You 3 Some Questions,


                                                       ❤  Have You Wonder Why You Think Like This? 



                                                        ❤   How Many Hour Per day do you think it?


                                                                           

                                                         ❤  Have You Ever Thought Your present life is affected by your 

                             overthinking?




"SPEND EIGHTY PERCENT OF YOUR TIE FOCUSING ON THE OPPORTUNITIES OF TOMMOROW RATHER THAN THE PROBLEM OF YESTERDAY"

                                                                                    _BRAIN TRACY




Physical Effects of overthinking:

                                                  *    Symptom of mental,health issue like depression or anxiety.  

                                                   

                                                  *     Dry mouth


                                                   *    Headaches


                                                 *      Inability to Concentrate


                                                  *     Fast  Heartbeat


                                                   *    Dizzines 



 One Small Story ;


                               A girl studying in a school. that did'nt enjoy the school life.that girl life is  going like

 that.that's how school days end at one day. then she join a college. she regrets not being  able to enjoy

 school  days even after she goes to college. she think about the same think over and over again. at the

 same time she think  about the future . she is wasting her present life   thinking of everythingthat could

 have happend like this ,when it happend.that girl life going like this .one day her college days also end

 but she  could'nt achieve anything. what the reason she not achieve anything in her life?  the storngest

 reason is overthinking.


                                   thinking is good but too much thinking is a disease.



WHAT CAN I TELL YOU FROM THIS STORY?  in your past life you met a lot of problems .in future

 you are going to meet a  problems. in the present  you are still dealing with problem. in the past,

 present , future this include all  of the issue you have encounterd. you will be present in  the time or

 moment  .all your problems will be solved.



YOU DID'NT PRESENT AT THE TIME? 


                                                                           I mean you are in the illusion world ,you can't  take the

 right decision(in our life even a samll decisions gives a big changes) .again you are going think that

 problem  then automatically gone a illusion world.



DID YOU PRESENT AT THE TIME?  


                                             you don't need to worry about  future .



DID YOU DO EVERYTHING LIKE THIS? 

                                                               you will not regret what happend thier  past .beacuse she present

 at the moment  .so her past  was beautifully and happy.




WHY DID I SAY THIS? DID YOU PRESENT AT THE MOMENT LIKE THIS? YOUR PAST ,PRESENT AND FUTURE  ARE ABLE TO COME RIGHT.

                                                                 

                                                                       

 CONCEPT OF THE STORY IS : everything happend in the present moment( the problem happend 

 may be in past  ) but  that time we are in the present so we can solve that problem. our life past moment

 would come happiest jouney.  

 


3  simple projects of our life:


                                            past   = finshied project .


                                      present    = runing project .

                 

                                     Future      = going to do the project.


Above 3 projects are their our life, no matter any thing  happend or going to happen or  now you are

 facing any thing. that moment you presence of mind(present) is more important.did you present at that

 time,you don't need to worryabout your past,present and future life. 




HOW TO OVERCOME FROM OVERTHINKIG,  HERE SOME WAYS FOR YOU;

                        

                                                                          ❤    Try to control your mind 


                                                                           ❤  Challenge you thoughts


                                                                         ❤     Volunteering with a local oraganization

                                                                        

                                                                         ❤      keep the focusing on what you really want


                                                                         ❤     Take up a new hobby like painting,dancing,reading


books etc...


                                                                           ❤   doing yoga is the best overcome from thinking  


                                                                            ❤    Hearing some songs.



In geocology says  take new scheculde for 21 days for your success or overcome from a habit defintiely change.


take a 21 days challenge for overcome from thinking do above all these,defintiely  overcome .your will be happy soon.   



        believe me no matter what happens in your life don't think too much about it. 






                                              STOP THINKING AND START LIVING .....




TAKE TIME TO DELIBERATE ,BUT WHEN THE TIME FOR ACTION  HAS ARRIVED ,STOP

 THINKING AND GO IN .  

                                          _NAPOLEAN BONAPARTE.



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